Exhale

Strawberries Tomatoes and Mint

The last week has been a tough one for our little family. I mean a really tough one. Perhaps one day I’ll be brave enough to share that story here but for now it’s still a bit too raw, so suffice it to say, we’ve been struggling. After a few days of being shut inside feeling sorry for ourselves, today we were much in need some outside time and our list of garden chores was calling…

Truth be told, I’ve never been terribly keen on gardening. Reubs is the garden guy in our house. Though I’ve always been very interested in the results of gardening (fruits, veggies, herbs and flowers? yes please!) the process itself has never really excited me. I’ve just never been particularly outdoorsy. So you can imagine how surprised I’ve been to notice a little shift in my feelings toward the garden chores this Spring. I’ve found myself amazed by how much I have actually enjoyed getting my hands in the soil while planting our fruit trees and putting in our raised veggie beds. I’ve discoverd how lovely it is to wake up in the morning and water the vegetables. I’ve grown rather fond of wandering through nurseries and plant stalls at the farmers market…

Today Reubs and I planted a bunch of lovely new things including two camellias, a gardenia, some Australian natives, two passionfruits and an artichoke. We fertilised the raspberries and blueberries. We mulched the roses. Reubs mowed the lawn while I potted some tomatoes that wouldn’t fit in our raised beds, and planted some new strawberries and mint in hanging baskets. And as we pottered around, the sunshine, the clean air and the dirt under my nails washed away some of the sadness of the past few days. For the first time in a little while, I could exhale.

So gardening, huh? I think I just might be a convert.

Katie x

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31 Responses to “Exhale”

  1. Nadia October 16, 2013 at 10:12 pm #

    Hugs. Hope things get better for you. x

  2. Moysie October 16, 2013 at 10:19 pm #

    Hope your dark days pass and life treats you more kindly soon!

  3. AmyS October 16, 2013 at 11:05 pm #

    I can only guess as why you were low and all the things I think of break my heart. All I can think to do is remind you how much you are loved, take each moment as it comes, and to be kind to yourself.

    Lots of hugs to you both!

  4. sian October 16, 2013 at 11:14 pm #

    hope you are ok! your garden looks lovely!

  5. ka October 17, 2013 at 1:00 am #

    sorry to hear you’ve been having a rough time, hope everything is ok.

    i am terribly envious of your garden, & love to hear (& see) all about it!

  6. Jane Y. October 17, 2013 at 2:10 am #

    hope things get better soon. xx

  7. Carrie October 17, 2013 at 3:52 am #

    Hope things get better soon. Hopefully, during these trying times your garden can be a spot of renewal for you both.

  8. eliza October 17, 2013 at 4:20 am #

    sending you warm thoughts!

  9. caroline October 17, 2013 at 5:42 am #

    so sorry for your sad time…gardening is good for you. glad you feel a little better. I hope everyone is ok…animals & humans!! Hugs :)

  10. Rita@thissortaoldlife October 17, 2013 at 6:31 am #

    I am like you; gardening has never been much my thing. We planted vegetables for this first time this past spring (May for us). We didn’t actually harvest much–we made mistakes–but I was surprised at how much I enjoyed the process. I’m sorry you’ve been having a sad time. I think that doing something with your hands, and something that is about nurturing life and looking toward the future, is good medicine. Works for me, anyway. I hope you will be feeling better.

  11. Deborah October 17, 2013 at 7:11 am #

    “And hard times are good in their own way, too. Because the only way you can achieve true happiness is if you experience true sadness as well. It’s all about light and shade. Balance.”
    ― Gabrielle Williams

    Thanks so much for taking the time to post your article during this difficult time that you are going through. I enjoy reading it very much here in the UK, where our gardens have now been put away for the winter. :)

  12. Kathryn Skinner October 17, 2013 at 7:19 am #

    Hope you two are ok, sending warmest wishes, Kathryn xo

  13. Brenda October 17, 2013 at 9:45 am #

    So sorry to hear you have been through some difficult days, you blog is a bright friendly place to visit, I hope you feel better soon. Being outside gardening is good for the soul, I’m guessing, now you have your own home you will find gardening more interesting – its hard to put in work when you are renting but when its your own its different. Take care xxBrenda

  14. Cassandra October 17, 2013 at 9:51 am #

    Hugs for you Katie & Reuben…. some parts of life can be just so darn hard and painful. At least you are learning what wonderful therapy is to be had in the garden. It’s a place of healing heart and mind. XX

  15. Meg October 17, 2013 at 10:26 am #

    hugs and the warmest of wishes to you both . . .

  16. Ali Lee October 17, 2013 at 10:37 am #

    Dear Katie & Reuben, just breathe & take one day at a time, gardens have a magic calming influence & they need you xx

  17. Lisa Young October 17, 2013 at 1:42 pm #

    Hope you guys are doing ok. I just started reading your blog and really enjoy it.

  18. Tania @ Petit Pixel Design October 17, 2013 at 4:43 pm #

    Oh my…if you can get into gardening and start to love it, there might be hope for me yet!!
    Hugs to you both…wishing you extra doses of sunshine xx

  19. Allie H October 18, 2013 at 5:21 am #

    sorry to hear things haven’t been all peachy. good thoughts to you both.

  20. Emily October 18, 2013 at 9:06 am #

    Thinking of you, friends-I’ve-never-met. XO

  21. Joolz October 18, 2013 at 1:28 pm #

    Thinking of you xx. You are my idea of a perfect little couple – living simply, gently, lovingly. I love seeing your reno’s, the chooks, pets, garden, food. I hope you are both okay.

    Joolz xx

  22. Lauren October 18, 2013 at 6:45 pm #

    I’m sorry to hear it’s been a tough week. I hope you are being kind to yourself…
    After living in an apartment for 7 years having a garden has been so lovely…and therapeutic…even if it’s just watering the plants at the end of the day and seeing the changes in them xx Take care

  23. The Life of Clare October 19, 2013 at 7:42 am #

    Sorry to hear about this week, I hope the weeks only improve from now. Gardening us a good way to do that. Hugs and best wishes to your little family.

  24. Julie October 20, 2013 at 12:07 pm #

    Hugs and love to you and Rueben. Take one day at a time and allow yourselves to heal, emotionally, mentally and physically. Sadness takes its toll on all these parts of our whole. When you are ready, the world will be waiting with sunshine and rainbows xxx

  25. Sarah @ Chantille Fleur October 21, 2013 at 7:44 pm #

    I never thought I was a gardener either – and once I thought I’d rather plant flowers tha. Veggies but now I prefer vegetables, although the odd flower is nice too. The garden is such a peaceful place; I always love going there at the end of a hard day or week.
    Hugs to you & Reuben. I hope whatever has happened will heal sooner rather than later :-)

    Thinking of you,
    Sarah xoxoxoxo

  26. jane October 21, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    hi to you all

    I feel I know what it is that has saddened you both and made your hearts heavy.
    There will be other chances and moments which will put it right. Stay true to yourselves and what you believe in, and I promise the sun will return:)

  27. Charmaine October 24, 2013 at 9:55 am #

    Just want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Everything else that could be said to offer consolation seems to have been covered in the previous comments. I add my personal ‘ditto’ to each one of them. Blessings to you and Reuben to restore you to wellbeing and blissful moments.

  28. Rebecca October 28, 2013 at 9:49 am #

    I love reading your blog. I hope that you and Reuben are doing okay. Gardening is wonderful therapy. xx

  29. Kat October 29, 2013 at 9:56 am #

    I just wanted to share something with you. I hope that this is ok?

    Feel free to delete this if you feel it’s best.

    I had a miscarriage three weeks ago. I had a similar experience to you during a scan. I had a scan the week before and we saw a little heartbeat, but just one week later it had just stopped.

    I know how gut wrenchingly hard it is. How painful both physically and emotionally it is. How life feels like it will never be the same again. In fact to be honest I can’t even to begin to describe the searing emotional pain.

    I also know that whatever happens I’ll never, ever forget my tiny unborn baby. No mother does. And like any bereavement, because that’s what it is, nothing will put it right.

    But something you said struck a cord in me, I’m sorry if this sounds bossy, but please don’t feel your pain is less than anyone else’s. It’s not. You have every right to grieve. As much as any parent in ANY circumstance.

    My mother was very clear about that to me as soon as that happened and that was one of the most helpful things anyone said, along with the midwife stressing it wasn’t my fault.

    I have noticed that not many want to talk about it, people think a nice lunch or a day out will make everything alright. It won’t. It a very taboo subject.

    I probably would have said something like that too before.

    However I do believe that one day the pain will ease and My husband and I WILL get through this, just like you will too.

    You will be in my thoughts.

    xx

  30. Katie November 13, 2013 at 4:55 pm #

    Oh, I hope you two are feeling and doing better now! Sending you giant hugs and lots of positive thoughts and “good-luck”s!

  31. Katie November 13, 2013 at 4:59 pm #

    Also, gardening is very helpful as a stress/sadness/grief reliving activity. I always go there and just do something, watch things grow and change, listen to the birds sing, crickets make their music, too.. and it helps a lot. I wish my garden was still alive, but we’re all ready for winter now.
    Anyways, just wanted to give you more hugs, that’s all I can do. Oh, and also everything will be wonderful one day, I promise.

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