Remember how we talked about moving? And then we talked about not moving? Yes well, today we’re talking about moving again! (Fickle, aren’t we?) You see, recently we’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the direction we are heading in, what we want from life and how we can achieve our dreams and goals, and we’ve come to realise we aren’t being terribly proactive in making those things happen. Though our life right now is pleasant enough and we’re getting by ok, it’s not really going where we want it to. Instead of moving forward we’ve been treading water, and we’ve come to realise that in order to get somewhere we need to make some serious changes. We’ve thought very long and hard about what we need to do and we have decided the time has indeed come to leave this little house, only instead of moving to another rental as we originally planned, we are going to stay with my mama!
Though I doubt any adult ever dreams of moving back home and it was never a part of my plan, at this point in time moving in with mum for a little while just makes a lot of sense. Reuben and I desperately want to travel and buy a home of our own as soon as we possibly can, but paying rent makes it really difficult for us to save the money we need to do those things. Our plan is that once we leave here, we will put the money we are currently spending on rent into savings. Even while paying our share of the bills, we should also save a considerable amount of money on utilities. Though saving is our main priority, there are a lot of other great things about moving in with my mama. It’s incredibly difficult to find pet friendly rental properties but at my mum’s place our fur babies are very welcome. Unlike the house we rent now, mum’s place has a huge backyard where Daisy can run around, and my mum has her own doggies for Daisy to play with. (Poor Daisy gets a bit lonely being an only dog child.) Also unlike our current home, Mum’s place has plenty or storage space for all of our things, room for us to plant a veggie patch and a kitchen that is actually conducive to cooking. Hurrah!
Obviously this move is going to mean making a lot of adjustments and compromises. I have been completely independant since I left home at 17 and my mum has lived alone for a few years now, so it’s unlikely to be all smooth sailing. It will also be sad to leave Bendigo (for just a little while!) because we really do love it here. (We’ll only be an hour away and we’ll still be here all the time, but it’s not the same as living here.) I am sure we’ll have disagreements and frustrations, ups and downs, but I’m also sure we’ll be ok. I am really grateful that Reubs and my mum get along so well and that mum lives close enough to Bendigo for this to be a viable option. Reubs and I are both eternally thankful that my mum has so readily embraced the idea of us coming to stay. We feel very lucky to have her support.
We will be making the move to mama’s house at the end of this month. In November we will be taking a few weeks off work to take a big road trip and catch up with our friends and family throughout New South Wales and Queensland, which will give us a chance to catch our breath and regroup, all ready for a fresh start when we return. Though in some ways moving out of our own place feels like a step backwards, we know that ultimately it will help us to move forward. Right now we are feeling very excited about all the future holds for us…
Wish us luck!
I wish you guys all the very best for your future and lots of happiness
I’m sure everything is going to be great!
Arianna
I think that this is a great step for you! I wish you the best of luck and enjoy your road trip!!
Xo,cb
I wish you guys the very best of luck! Hubby and I moved in with my parents when we moved over from London to Athens. We were there for a whole 8 months – planning our wedding – before we saved enough money to move into our own place.
Maria xx
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I wish you two the best! It will be a fun adventure! Saving money is awesome and having friends for Daisy is so great too
Plus you get to see your mom, I miss my mom she lives 9 hours away in the state over from me. I know you guys will have fun, and I look forward to hearing about your road trip!
xo Felicia
I lived in a different state to my mum for years before we moved to Bendigo and it is so nice being close!! I just wish the rest of our families were closer…
I moved back with my parents too after college to save up money to get a place of my own. It’s a great idea even it is difficult to adjust after living away for so long. I wish you all the best!
So happy you found an option that will let you finally work on your dreams! I’ve been struggling making progress as well on my dreams, but I’ve finally found a few options that might let me work on it a little in our current situation.
I’ve definitely learned that patience is essential in these journeys.
Good luck!
Ah yes, patience. Truth be told I’m not great with patience! But it certainly is essential. I’m working on it…
My husband and I live with my parents. It’s not the ideal living situation others may think of it but it isn’t awful either. We love being with other people and sharing meals and memories. We like saving money and helping out (my father went on disability shortly after we moved in).
No, I’m sure it won’t be awful! We have a really great relationship with my mum and love spending time at her house. I think it will be really, really nice to live there for a while. It’s so nice to hear from someone who is doing the same thing and enjoying it!
My husband and I did the same for a few years and while initially it is a bit of a jab to the heart, the end result is so worth it! Good luck and I know that one day soon y’all will be back out on your own.. but this time, in a home you own!
Thank you Amy! It’s really comforting to know so many others have made this same decision and it’s worked out well for them. I really can’t wait to buy our own place and I’m so excited about the prospect of leaving the rental loop!
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Wow! – its a move, certainly and you’re extremely lucky that you have somewhere to go, in order to save up – Is your mom not charging you any rent? she’s such a sweetie if she isn’t! It seems a somewhat ‘new’ phenomena for children to be moving back in with their parents, I wouldn’t have wanted to- and my parents wouldn’t have wanted it either-its getting tough out there for young people nowadays if they feel they have to give up their independence to have a life.
good luck with everything, i’m sure it will work out, and nice for all of you to have a bit of company
Best of luck! I’m sure it’ll all go swimmingly in the end.
sending you best wishes with this new adventure, it would be great, you’ll see
I’m glad you two found your path! As a matter of fact, I’ll also be moving in with my mummy at the end of this month (and also together with my boyfriend with who I’ve lived in a rental) – how’s that for a coincidence?
Oh, that is a coincidence! Moving in with mum twinsies!
Totally!
Good luck! My boyfriend and I are in the same boat as you two in that our current place isn’t exactly where we want to end up so we’re moving down to his parents farm to take care of it for half a year while his parents travel. This also allows us to save money and travel when they get back.
Looking forward to hearing about the vegetable garden and tasty treats you can make in a functional kitchen!
Wow, good luck with your move to the farm! That will be an adventure!
Good luck! It sounds like you’ve thought long and hard about what you want to do and how you’re going to achieve it. I made the hard decision to live with my parents again and while it isn’t the ideal situation it’s what works for me at the moment. We are incredibly lucky to have such supporting families!
We are indeed incredibly lucky!! I’m so grateful I have such a good relationship with my mum and that she’s so happy to help us out. SO grateful! x
I don’t know…moving home for awhile sounds quite nice to me, esp as your mum lives in such a nice area. It seems that as adults we tend to get closer to our parents…I bet you have a great time (and save lots of $$$)!
I nearly had a heart-attack thinking you were moving away-away, but an hour away is acceptable
Well done on the plan making! xo
This is such an exciting time! I hope the move goes smoothly and allows you both to transition towards travel/home-ownership easily and well!
Good luck!
Wishing you all the best for the future
I’m sure it will all turn out in the end…
Happy travelling in the mean time!
Sarah xo
You guys will be fine
Happy travel planning xc
After a bad break up I moved back in with my mum after 8 years of being away. I saved heaps and went and traveled and lived in the UK for a while. Best thing I ever did and it really changed my life. Parents are there to help, its nice to go back I think, I really enjoyed it. Good luck with your travels and life plans.
This sounds like a good plan! I think it’s lovely that you can live with your mum while you both work towards the goal of saving for a holiday and a house. It will probably be a really nice time for all of you! I find that as an adult I really enjoy being around my mum, I think now that I am not a surly teenager we can get along so well.
I love hanging out with my mum too! It’s quite funny because as a teenager I never would have imagined that could be possible. Haha! x
Don’t feel bad about going home for a bit. A lot more people are discovering that in this current economy it really is a good step to make moving towards the goal of home ownership, or finishing school. There is no shame in pursuing your goals, and sometimes being home is just one of the steps you have to take to get there. It’s not always easy but I really think it helps in the end. I had to come home for a few months while my fiancé served in France, and I finished up the semester at college waiting for our new baby to arrive. Being home made it so much easier, and we were able to save for his return, and our new bundle of joy. Good luck, and don’t lose sight of your goals.
Take this time of living with your Mama to soak up all the good things that you can, whether it’s cooking with her, sharing a cup of tea, laughing over old pictures… I got to move back in with my Mom when I was an adult because i went back to school and couldn’t afford rent and tuition on my meager salary. I’m so glad I got to experience living with her as an adult because I appreciated her and our time together on a whole different level. She passed away last month, but I’ll always be grateful for that “extra” time we had to live together.